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In recent times, there has been an alarming trend of women attacking or humiliating other women over relationships with married men. From public fights to online name-calling — often branding other women as "husband snatchers" — the aggression is misdirected, misguided, and, frankly, dangerous. Let’s be clear: if a woman assaults another woman over a man, especially her own husband, she should be arrested and prosecuted. Violence is never the answer, and we need to talk about why the blame is being placed on the wrong person.
The Man Made the Move — Not Her
Too often, women are quick to attack other women without acknowledging a crucial truth: the man is the one who stepped outside his vows. If your husband is involved with another woman, the problem is with him. He made the promises, he broke the trust, and he pursued the relationship — not the other way around. Blaming the other woman while giving the man a pass is not only unjust, it’s counterproductive.
You can’t hold a stranger accountable for promises they never made to you. Your husband did.
A Man Can Choose — And Culturally, Some Can Marry More Than One
In many cultures and religions, men are permitted to marry more than one woman — as long as they can provide and treat them equally. So if a man proposes to another woman, even while already married, he’s not necessarily violating any social or legal rule depending on where he is and what culture he follows. The woman who accepts such a proposal may not be doing anything wrong. She may be acting within her rights, and it’s not for others to judge that.
So, before calling another woman names or trying to publicly humiliate her, ask: did she betray you? Or did he?
The Hypocrisy of "Husband Snatcher"
The term "husband snatcher" is toxic and deeply rooted in patriarchal thinking — as if men are passive, voiceless prizes that can be “stolen” rather than fully grown adults who make their own decisions. No one can "snatch" a man who doesn't want to be taken. If he’s with someone else, it’s because he chose to be. That’s not theft — that’s choice. And that’s on him.
Women need to stop fighting each other and start holding men accountable for their actions. When we shame other women and protect unfaithful men, we’re enabling the behavior we claim to hate.
Violence Is a Crime — Not a Reaction
Let’s also be clear: physically attacking someone over a relationship is a crime. No matter how angry or betrayed someone feels, resorting to violence is not only illegal — it's harmful to everyone involved. Women who beat, insult, or shame other women publicly should face legal consequences. Assault is assault, and it should not be excused just because it’s “over a man.”
We have laws for a reason. Let’s use them.
Time for a Change
We must evolve beyond the outdated mindset that makes women enemies of each other in matters of the heart. If your partner cheats, the breach is between you and him. Don’t take your pain out on another woman — hold your partner accountable.
Let’s stop the fighting. Let’s stop the shame. And let’s start placing responsibility where it truly belongs.